When you become a single parent there will be many challenges to implement positive parenting your children. It should be understood that the majority of children do not want their parents divorced because they need a real example of a relationship that is built from a love to produce a child of their love story.
In eastern culture, we decided to establish a sacred relationship that is tied up in a marriage relationship. This marriage is our goal, after getting to know the personality of each partner before deciding to undergo the household together. we decided to get married because we have the same vision and mission for our future and our children will be.
For that, you need to know more closely with your partner, before deciding to get married and have a child from him. A marriage relationship has a foundation called honesty. That if you love your partner, then you will not hurt him to lie to him.
So what if you choose the wrong partner? What if your spouse be changed and does not have the vision and the same mission again, but you already have a child of the relationship. Usually parents divorced tend to have unstable emotions. They often took it to their children, especially if it turns out the reason the divorce is due to the presence of other people in their household. Children tend to be victims of violence because in her blood flowing their former partner. The result is that many children are educated to parents who divorced traumatized. They will experience in the future fears about whether they will experience the same thing with their parents.
Single parenting will be very influential on a child's development. The child will tend to be embarrassed when you're hanging out with friends who still have parents who intact. Especially once they tend to have unstable emotions as a result of always listening to the arguments of their parents. They will also blame their parents for what happened to them.
However, if the parents have decided to split up, keep in mind that their children are still tied to you. That your blood flowing in their blood. That they also have the right to be successful or have a better relationship. Make sure the parents are divorced to think clearly about the future of their children. Who needs to educate them directly. Make sure the person appointed had to have a good mental stability and do not have a history of violence. It is important to prevent our children from potential violence that may be received in the future.
Positive parenting can still be done in these circumstances. Make sure children understand that if parents continue a relationship that is not healthy, the impact will be very bad to them respectively. Provide age-appropriate understanding of the child. However, with the understanding that continuous and sincere love of parents who educate their children directly, single parenting effect on the development of children will have a positive result because you do positive parenting. Because if you love a child that you are striving to be born even if you have to run the risk of death in childbirth, you will do anything for his good and for the sake of a better future for her. Avoid hate arose only because of the blood flowing in his blood the same people who used to be your partner. Remember how much you really want it born into the world and that your child is not guilty of all the bad things that have happened to you. That child is you who will be the solace you, who will give her love sincerely as you get older because he would understand how great you fight for him and how sincere love that you have given him over the years.
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